Loved itThere's a lot of things here that I love. In the Dreamhouse, I rose into the sea, My Heart is a Chainsaw, How You Lose the Time War, I Who have never known men, walking practice, to be taught if fortunate.
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In the Dream House (2019)
Others: Overwhelmingly positive In the Dream House is Carmen Maria Machado’s engrossing and wildly innovative account of a relationship gone bad, and a bold dissection of the mechanisms and cultural representations of psychological abuse. Tracing the full arc of a harrowing relationship with a charismatic but volatile woman, Machado struggles to make sense of how what happened to her shaped the person she was becoming. And it’s that struggle that gives the book its original structure: each chapter is driven by its own narrative trope―the haunted house, erotica, the bildungsroman―through which Machado holds the events up to the light and examines them from different angles. She looks back at her religious adolescence, unpacks the stereotype of lesbian relationships as safe and utopian, and widens the view with essayistic explorations of the history and reality of abuse in queer relationships. Machado’s dire narrative is leavened with her characteristic wit, playfulness, and openness to inquiry. She casts a critical eye over legal proceedings, fairy tales, Star Trek, and Disney villains, as well as iconic works of film and fiction. The result is a wrenching, riveting book that explodes our ideas about what a memoir can do and be.
- ISBN:
- 9781644450383
- Length:
- 272 pages
Genres: memoir, biography, nonfiction
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Loved it
Loved itIn the dreamhouse is her memoir. It's written kind of in pros and inverse. It's very good.
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Loved itin the dream house is her Memoir about an abusive relationship that she was in and it's one of the most difficult books I've ever read
Loved itit is an absolutely heartbreaking and soul-bearing Memoir about abuse in a queer relationship and how this impacted the author and the writing is just captivating and lyrical and poetic
Loved itfor an author to be able to do that instantaneously for me makes it one of the greatest books of all time
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Loved itBut again, so, so, so accessible lots to discuss. This was a really good book club read.
Loved itit was just so creative the way that she spoke about what had happened to her and how that made her feel about herself and other relationships and what a strange world that world is and I just thought it was beautifully done and if you haven't picked up yet I would very much recommend it